95% of couples don't pray together. (Are you one of them?)


You know you should be praying together as a couple.

Maybe you've thought about it a hundred times. Maybe you've even brought it up once or twice. But somehow it never actually happens.

It feels awkward. Forced. Like you don't even know where to start or what to say.

Or maybe one of you wants to and the other just... doesn't. And bringing it up feels like opening a whole other can of worms.

You're not alone. 95% of couples, even ministry couples, don't pray together.

But here's what might surprise you: Couples who pray together have a divorce rate of just 1 in 1,152 (compared to the national average of 40-50%.)

That's a HUGE difference, and a good reason to start praying together as a couple -- even if it's awkward.

Today on the podcast, I'm talking with Brad and Heidi Mitchell, authors of Build Your Marriage with Prayer about why praying together as a couple is SO important.

And they're refreshingly honest: it wasn't always this way for them either.

They share how they started praying together, what to do when you disagree on major decisions, and how to pray together without praying "at" each other (yes, using prayer as a weapon to change your spouse is a real thing, and we talk about it).

In this conversation, we talk about:

  • Why praying together feels so awkward (and how to start anyway)
  • How to start even if your spouse isn't interested or on board
  • The "thank you prayers only" approach that removes conflict from the equation
  • What to pray when you have no idea what to say
  • The beach ball analogy that explains why avoiding small conflicts leads to huge explosions
  • When to pray alone vs. together as a couple

Where to Watch or Listen:

If you've been meaning to start praying together but keep putting it off, this conversation might finally give you the push you need to "just start" and "persevere."

-- Brittany Ann

Equipping Godly Women

p.s. Ready to actually start praying together but not sure how to make it stick?

Brad and Heidi's book Build Your Marriage with Prayer takes all the guesswork out of it. This 40-day guided journey walks you through proven prayer practices designed specifically for couples, with guided prayers, reflection questions, and practical exercises for every single day. No more putting it off. Just open it up and begin.

Find it on Amazon here.

Brittany Ann | Equipping Godly Women

Hi, I'm Brittany Ann! I help busy Christian moms find simple, practical ways to create a strong faith, close family, and a life they LOVE -- without all the guilt and overwhelm. Join us for practical tips, trustworthy biblical advice, helpful resources, and a lot of fun!

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